In most arguments that people tell me about, they think that they are right and the other person is wrong. This makes it really difficult to solve any type of argument. Almost nobody ever thinks they are wrong. So if both people think they are right, then how can they come to a resolution? From […]
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A couple of weeks ago I wrote about Miguel Ruiz’s 4 Agreements: Don’t Take Anything Personally. Taking things personally causes us much pain and suffering. And the main reason why we take things personally is because we make assumptions. We often make the assumption that someone else’s action is about us (e.g. they didn’t thank
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One of the 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” It is a very powerful agreement, because if we really master this and don’t take anything personally, then we would be able to stop so many disagreements, avoid lots of pain and suffering and reduce drama in our life. However, it
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Last night I came across Facebook post about a dress that some people see as white and gold and others as black and blue. (See: The internet is losing its composure over this dress that might be white and gold or black and blue) I saw it CLEARLY as white and gold, but when I
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What really makes relationships work? I have written before about the 4 behaviors that sabotage relationships that came out of Gottman’s research in his “Love Lab”: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling. Based on observing interactions between couples and identifying these key behaviors, he was able to predict with over 90% accuracy whether a couple would
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Last week, we talked about Stephen Covey’s secret to avoiding adversarial relationships and practicing effective interpersonal leadership: The habit to “Think Win/Win.” See: The 4th Habit of Highly Effective People: Think Win/Win (Part I) We discussed the first foundational piece that needs to be in place in order to be able to truly think win/win,
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How much interpersonal conflict have you witnessed or been part of over the last week? How about over the last month? Wouldn’t it be great if there was a way we could interact with everyone in ways where we seek to benefit everyone and cooperate naturally? Disagreements and conflicts can occur anywhere – in companies,
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Last week we talked about 2 of the 4 behaviors (or horsemen of the apocalypse) that Dr. John Gottman found greatly contribute to relationship conflicts: Criticism and Contempt. (Read more in: 4 Behaviors That Sabotage your Relationships (Part I)) While Contempt is the single biggest predictor of divorce, there are 2 more behaviors that create
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One of the biggest complaints I hear from people all the time have to do with their relationships (whether it’s about family, partners, co-workers, or friends). Having positive relationships is one of the key ingredients to happiness, so experiencing recurrent conflicts in our relationships is a sure-fire way to keep us from being happy. One
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“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.” ~Wayne Dyer How often do we just do the opposite and wish: If s/he was only more….spontaneous, creative, thoughtful, etc. or If s/he was only less…messy, anxious, picky
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